Until we meet again…

A few personal words about our Judy’s passing…

To say I was shocked by Judy’s passing would be a gross understatement.  Yet, I guess, I knew it was coming.  I just thought she had a few more months.  Judy was special to me.  She was my first…  the first person with Inflammatory Breast Cancer I’d ever encountered.

I remember well how it felt to find posts from IBC survivors that were years old with no updates available.  I thought to myself how wonderful it was that they’d survived X number of years… but where were they now?  Alive?  Dead?  It turned the potentially hopeful, inspiring stories into landmines of doubt and fear.  At that time, I vowed to be an active, living voice of an IBC survivor on the internet.  Enter Judy.

I found Judy’s blog after I’d returned to work from my own cancer treatment.  She had just been diagnosed.  She was already metastatic.  I made a concerted effort to comment on her blog.  Hoisting myself as a flag of hope at the finish line of treatment:  cancer-freedom.  Of course, that was naive of me.  I had little understanding of metastatic disease back then.   But still, I made sure I was that living, breathing voice of survival from such a deadly disease.  Through Just Enjoy Him I found other Inflammatory Breast Cancer patients, notably, Susan (WhyMommy).   Seems we all had the same supportive idea.

Judy was the beginning of my advocacy.  She was my window into the dark side of breast cancer.  She was my first reality check…  the first time I realized that attitude and strength of will were not the impenetrable armor against cancer that the media would have me believe.

Following Judy has not always been pretty.  She struggled with anger and fear that I never truly experienced.  But inevitably, her faith in God lifted her up again.  She lived a roller coaster ride of plunging health and spirits followed by glorious soaring heights.  That is life.  That was Judy.  That is metastatic cancer.

I will miss her voice.   I will miss here spirit.  I will miss her face smiling back at me from my monitor.  I will miss her planking.  Heh.  I will miss Judy.  But I’ll see her again someday.  What a glorious day that will be.


5 Responses to Until we meet again…

  1. kcmp says:

    Thank you for such beautiful words. As a friend of Judy’s from growing up in Kent, I feel like I have gotten to know Judy’s online friends through JustEnjoyHIm. She was a networker supreme, but in friendship and honesty.

  2. Shari Elliott says:

    Thank you for your wonderful post.
    I am so fortunate to have met Judy at a retreat in NC back in June, and her incredible family. She will truly be missed. She has been a wonderful friend and I will soooo miss her. My heart just breaks for her and her family. Her posts, like her were funny, and filled with her wonderful spirit. She is irreplaceable. She is now an angel watching over us. God Bless.

  3. Stimey says:

    I am so sorry for your—our—loss of Judy. She will definitely be missed. Much love to all who knew her.

  4. Margie says:

    Thank you so much for this tribute to Judy. So many people will miss her, from close family and friends to those she touched online. She will be in my thoughts for a long, long time.

  5. Margaret says:

    Judy… my younger sister… fought Inflammatory Breast Cancer until she could no more. The tributes posted show how much the blogging community cared for her. Love her and miss her.

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