Q. Why just mothers with cancer? Why not all people?
A. There are many sites and established organizations for people with many types of cancer. Even the rarest cancers have email support lists and a web page somewhere. What those pages don’t have, however, is support for the special challenges that a mother with cancer experiences. Suddenly, the life of a mom is turned upside down; a life perhaps centered on others must become a life centered on fighting cancer. There’s a lot to process all at once, and no time to process it. The children must still be fed. They must be napped, and read to sleep at night. Their regular schedules, whether the long cozy days of infancy or the hectic teenage years, don’t stop just because mom has cancer. There is much to do, and it’s hard to fit chemo and radiation and research in around the edges. Suddenly, cancer has to take center stage in a life that may already be crowded with responsibilities and care for other people. And then there are the conversations that must take place. Have you ever had to tell a little boy that his momma has cancer? How about a little girl that mommy can’t play today, because mommy is throwing up? And what of the infant who cries for his mother when she is away, or the teenager who wonders if the same thing will happen to her? These are questions that our society doesn’t yet have good answers to, but all the mothers on this site have had to face as they begin (or start again) their cancer journey. We hope to learn from each other, and to light the way for mothers with cancer who follow. We’re so glad you’re here, always letting us know that you haven’t forgotten us in our illness. We’re still the same friends we ever were, just learning to balance one new responsibility: fighting cancer.